I like to think that our crew has come a little beyond judging people by their appearances. The "she has to prove herself to be one of the guys" stuff has been done and done and done with women characters, and I'm simply not going to do it again, especially with this character.
I don't have a problem with Cindy having a problem with a character (even though she's in the minority here). The ONLY and I repeat ONLY thing that's bothered me is the constant death-of-Laurel stuff, which I'm starting to find distasteful. If someone comes on here, and storms off in a rage, saying she found a message "hurtful" because she thought it was personal, and takes people to task for it, and then turns right around and takes after someone else, consistently, in a very personal fashion, should either a) be more willing to accept same oneself, or b) not be doing so.
It's easy to forget, on a BBS, that we're talking to people. That was Cindy's problem in part, she felt (if I can presume to interpret for a moment) that I'd forgotten that I was talking to a person, rather than just writing words. Fair enough. It's equally possible to forget that performers are not just phosphor-dots on a screen, but real people.
Look, here's my bottom line: I don't have a WORD to say about anyone criticizing anything about this show, my writing, my cast, the EFX, ANYthing, as long as it's constructive and not just attacking for the sake of attacking. And I'll even let THAT slide for a time. The only thing that I have asked is for a little sensitivity and proportion equal in amount to that which was asked of me and others. To speculate gleefully about someone's demise, and to portray an actor's work in what amounts to a destructive and hurtful fashion, is not pleasant to witness, especially having worked with that performer for over a month, having seen her stay past midnight working to get a scene exactly right.
It had just gone over the top, and was getting ugly in here, and I felt I had to respond. Neither am I going to change the shape of my show because one person thinks a character is too good looking. Cindy went ballistic because I said the idea of that was "dopey." She said that it was tantamount to calling her dopey, that it's one and the same. So what then is she saying of Tamlyn in HER messages?
This is an open forum for constructive and frank discussion of Babylon 5. It is not a place to sit there safe behind one's keyboard and snipe, over and over and over. I let it slide the first half-dozen or so times. I'm not letting it slide anymore. Either we are adults, or we're here to name-call and be "fannish" in the worst sens of the word, and I happen to think that this crowd in particular is a hell of a lot better than that, and that INCLUDES Cindy. Throughout this process, from November on to now, a year later, we've had consistently wonderful and constructive conversations. I'd like to keep it that way. Because I have no desire to participate in anything less.
I hate to come off sounding hard-assed about it, but that's how i feel. You're responding strongly to Cindy's comments and position because you've met her; I'm on the opposite side, but in the same position. All I'm asking is for proportion here, and some sensitivity to the fact that we are talking about real people, and there's no need for sniping along these lines. Let's keep it constructive and specific.
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